Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) are diseases that are spread from one person to another during some type of sexual activity. There are many different types of STDs. Some of the more common STDs are chlamydia, gonorrhea, herpes, crab lice, syphilis, condylomata (genital warts), trichomonas, HIV (the virus that causes AIDS), and hepatitis B (a liver disease). Some of these diseases are more dangerous than others. We have treatments for some of them but not all. Some can be deadly or make you very sick.
Many times a person can have one of these diseases (especially chlamydia) and not know it because they don't have any symptoms and don't feel sick. The person can then unknowingly spread the disease to sexual partners if careful precautions aren't always used. Sometimes a person suspects or knows that they have an STD but is too embarrassed to talk about it with a sexual partner. If safe sex isn't practiced every time, then sexual partners are at risk for also getting the disease.
Having sex can be a very loving and special experience between two people. However, you should think about several important issues before you decide to have sex. Not only might sex cause a pregnancy or give you a sexually transmitted disease, but you also can get hurt emotionally because of the strong feelings involved.
Decide ahead of time what is right for you. Find an adult with whom you can discuss your feelings and opinions, and ask questions. Although it is sometimes awkward to start the conversation, you can discuss these things with your parents. Other adults from whom you might be able to get valuable information or insights include pastors or rabbis at your church or synagogue, school counselors, teachers, or adult relatives. Also your doctor's office can help you. You can usually discuss issues with these adults confidentially.
In terms of sex and sexual diseases, the only absolutely risk-free activity is to be abstinent and not have sex. Many teens decide to delay having sex until they are older, married, or feel more comfortable. There are also many intimate activities that are almost always safe without taking any special precautions. These activities include holding hands, hugging, touching, and kissing.
Other sexual activities, especially sexual intercourse, are very risky if precautions aren't taken and if you don't think things through and talk with your sexual partner. If you have vaginal or anal intercourse, you can protect yourself against almost all of the STDs by using condoms each time. Other birth control methods, such as birth control pills, Depo-Provera shots, Norplant, or an IUD, don't prevent you from getting an STD. Even if you are using another form of birth control, you still want to protect yourself with condoms.
There is a female condom, one that lines a woman's vagina, but it is more difficult to use. Talk with a doctor or nurse or other adult who knows how to use it before you try it.